I’ve finally figured out why it hurts more to lose a treasured pet than it does to lose a human relationship, at least for me. Altho I have had boyfriends and a husband who did look at me “adoringly”, it wasn’t, as it turned out, anything that was going to last forever.
With a pet, be it a cat, dog, horse (all of which I have/had), these “adoring” looks and looks of love and of just plain wanting to be with me, are “Forever” looks. There is no wondering on my part if there is going to be a mid-life crisis coming, or male menopause kicking in or thoughts of leaving me for somebody better. I AM the somebody better in their lives. They think of no one else but me. I am their everything. I can relax and know that I am the most important thing in their lives (short of food!) and have nothing to worry about and just take care of them to the best of my ability and love them for who they are and for what joy, comfort and love they bring into my life.
It’s too bad so many people don’t get or give themselves a chance to experience this sort of relationship. We can all learn from our animal friends and perhaps grow as human beings.
I still miss Tasha, Penny, Holly and Tony….:(
Oh, Jules … That hurt my heart, but not entirely in a bad way. The trick is – and this is reflected in posts we’ve both written – we have to look at others with that forever look in order to be looked at with that forever look. Even more, we have to believe that we are worthy of those looks. And we are … we really, really are!!
Comment by ellenslaughter — July 20, 2008 @ 7:52 pm